In today’s fast-paced business world, emotional intelligence has become a cornerstone of effective leadership. Leaders are increasingly called to navigate complex emotions, foster inclusivity, and cultivate trust within their teams.
Emotional intelligence is "the ability to recognize, understand, and manage your own and other's emotions." Emotional intelligence focuses on "self-awareness, self-regulation, and social awareness" (Wiginton, 2024), crucial leadership capabilities in changing times.
While tools and techniques for building emotional intelligence are plentiful, one foundational framework offers a profound, values-based approach: the Fruit of the Spirit. Rooted in Christian teachings, these nine qualities—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23)—provide a powerful compass for leaders looking to lead with authenticity, compassion, and resilience.
This three-part series explores practical approaches to engaging emotional intelligence through the Fruit of the Spirit to elevate leadership excellence.
Blueprint: Love, Joy, and Peace
Love
The authors of the book Love as a Business Strategy: Resilience, Belonging, & Success approach to love in leadership prioritizes people alongside profits, fostering an environment where employees feel included, heard, and safe to express themselves. Demonstrating love within the workplace fuels an environment that champions treating people with dignity, respect, compassion, and empathy.
Leadership Behaviors
- Create an environment where team members feel seen, heard, and acknowledged for their unique talents, abilities, and contributions.
- Figuratively put yourself in the place of another—understand what others are experiencing and how their experiences impact their behaviors; determine how to maintain an environment of dignity, respect, and inclusion in the face of sameness or differences.
- Pay attention to needs, thinking outside the box to draw new margins or expand existing boundaries to create a win-win situation or outcome.
- Be conscious of words and actions that signal a microaggression, microinequity, or unconscious bias that unknowingly and unintentionally diminishes a team member’s value.
Joy
As leaders, we can maintain a mindset of joy, choosing the glass half-full rather than half-empty perspective. Joy reflects positivity and resilience, helping leaders navigate challenges with a hopeful and motivating outlook that uplifts the team. Having this outlook is crucial as you are the beacon and barometer for team members’ attitudes and ways of thinking.
Leadership Behaviors
- Focus on possibilities instead of impossibilities or improbabilities. Engage in “what if” scenarios to explore the potential of taking action that leads to advancing outcomes. This mindset creates space for team members to think outside the box, realizing that doing is a welcomed option and success and failure are learning opportunities.
- When encountering challenging business situations, be quick to take control of thoughts so words and behaviors manifest in ways that model behaviors you desire team members to replicate. Discern mere distractions in the environment from relevant considerations. Zoom in on what is within your control and take action to preserve a joyful mindset. Attending to what is within your control sets the tone for team behaviors.
- Realize that venting (demonstrating strong, uncontrolled emotions) to others about things outside and within your control opens the door to stealing personal and team joy.
Peace
A state of internal peace is not the absence of external chaos, change, or disruption. Instead, it is choosing to remain internally and externally calm and tranquil in the face of it. Peace is essential for conflict resolution and fostering a harmonious work environment. As leaders, we can choose wisely when at the crossroads of panic or peace in business situations.
Leadership Behaviors
- Remain focused and in control of thoughts, words, and behaviors when facing challenges in organizational situations and business relationships. Doing so provides clarity in making decisions and taking action that yields productive outcomes.
- Develop an environment of trust with consistent actions. When operating outside a peace mindset, leadership behaviors could project inconsistencies that erode others’ confidence and trust, diminishing the ability to influence and lead effectively.
- Take advantage of teachable moments; give team members insight into how you navigate business situations while maintaining harmony. Without communication, a state of peace could be interpreted as not caring or being oblivious to what is happening. As you model desired leadership behaviors, become a mentor-coach, positioning team members to multiply the desired effect throughout the organization.
Imbalanced Leadership Behaviors
As a holistic framework, each Fruit of the Spirit behavior works complementary rather than as a singular, disconnected quality. When leaders do not focus on the behaviors as a system, there could be a tendency to optimize one attribute at the expense of another, culminating in a reduced display of emotional intelligence.
For example, Alex, a business director, oversees a high-stakes project with tight deadlines. When a team member makes a significant mistake, Alex works to maintain a positive, calm atmosphere, emphasizing peace and optimism. However, Alex sidesteps the need to address the issue directly by focusing on joy and reassurance. This lack of clear feedback leaves the team member feeling uncertain and unsupported, impacting morale and accountability.
While Alex’s positivity prevents tension, it also results in missed opportunities for growth. By balancing love—through direct, empathetic feedback—with joy and peace, Alex could have addressed the mistake constructively. This balanced approach fosters accountability and development while maintaining team cohesion.
Demonstrating balanced leadership behaviors in this scenario requires integrating empathy, optimism, and transparency to sustain morale and performance.
Call to Action
Considering the behaviors covered in this article, consider the following questions:
- Which one of the leadership behaviors will you focus on within the next week?
- What are the benefits of becoming more effective in this leadership behavior?
- What might it cost you in action or inaction to become more effective in this leadership behavior?
- How will you know you are successful in this behavior?
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Afshar, M., Heidari-Robinson, M., Kumar, F., Mandviwalla, C., & Singh, J. (2021). Love as a business strategy: Resilience, belonging & success. Lioncrest Publishing.
Wiginton, Keri. “What is Emotional Intelligence?” WebMD, 9 July 2024, https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-is-emotional-intelligence.
Lillian Davenport, SPHR, SHRM – SCP, MGSCC, Principal, End View LeadershipSM
